As I sat waiting in a doctor's office today, I came across an interesting article in Psychology Today discussing the competing conceptions of who we are, whether it be based off of personal or public perspectives. This, in essence, is how mixed signals and misunderstandings come to be.
The Bright Spot
This exists when both you and outside observers have the same ideology regarding your aptitude. For example, if you are talkative and vivacious in public, others will see you as a just that...